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april thus far ...

consists of a whole slew of weird events -- events which could have never really been prepared for.

one in particular:

i found out that this friend of mine, former friend now, is a shit-talking, hypocritical, certified bitch.

O was the type of, i don't know, bible-bearing person who always preached to people. she took Christianity to an almost show-offy level, one on which i now feel no guilt in saying i saw through completely. i mean she was what, 14/15, when she "converted" -- much to the popularized belief that she did this for some guy she really liked. then again, i didn't know her and once i did i believed (seriously) that she converted for her own reasons. but now, yeah, not so sure.

she totally screwed me over last year too, with this guy i liked. not gonna go into the details cuz whatever, i'm over it (no, not really) and i know that regardless of her meddling, nothing would have happened anyways, but that's beside the point. the point is that when you claim to be "best friends" with someone, or "one of" those limited, special, sacred few -- you are ultimately obligated to do things in their best interest. i was not interested in her fully sabotaging me. for crying out loud. CAMMAN!
so then she "changes". all because her now ex (M) heard about her interesting behaviour (before they were going out) and decided he didn't like the person she really was. well she balled and cried and blah blah. she actually had a falling out with M's very close friend, PA (also a friend that i hold very dear and very close, i love that girl!). PA and i, well i would say she is one of my closest and dearest-to-my-heart friends. she knows me pretty much inside and out. anyways we had been having issues with O for a while and decided that the person she really was, well, there was nothing we could do to change it so we had to just deal.
it got to the point where "dealing" with it just became a form of self-inflicted stress.
i dind't do the open confrontation. PA did, and of course at first i was hesitant to get involved cuz i'm not good with the whole in-your-face confrontation approach. i like to stand on the other side of the door kind of thing. but PA did it and well O confronted me about what i thought about. what i really thought about her. she asked me if i was still mad about hte whole E thing ... about you know, sabotaging me (is what i call it lol) and i said that yeah i was really mad before but that i was over it. clearly i lied, but like whatever -- what does it really matter anyways.

in the end she started dating M. they went out for a good 6 months (?) i think, and then she broke up with him.
here's how it went down (story is from what i have gathered, and from what M has told me);
he (M) was crazy for her (O). their relationship was uber cute and they seemed over the moon for each other. their relationship seemed genuine and M is a really caring and good guy. O seemed to have changed as well, so it was easy to forget about all the things that happened in the past and just take her for what she was then.
she broke up with him saying that she didn't want to be in a relationship - that she still "loved" him and that it wasn't that she didn't want to be with him, but that she could'nt be with anyone. approx. 2 days later a friend of M's saw O with another guy - smoochin' it up. grrrrrreat huh?
this guy, P, is the same guy that M had always perceived as a threat to his relationship with O for various reasons, one of which is that P always acted like M wasn't around when talking to O. that he would be flirtatious and extra close -- i mean c'mon, the boyfriend is RIGHT there buddy.
she has cut all lines of communication between them: phone, msn, facebook, even friends (all her frineds who used to talk to M have now ceased).
i think that she wanted to keep this new relationship of hers on the downlow for a while. i mean, i guess a new relationship only a few days after breaking up with her nice boyfriend would look bad. but then again, what does Ms. Bible care right? oh, about htat, apparently she hasn't been going to church (M goes to the same church) for like what ... 2 months now? maybe she's at a different church, who knows. point is, she's avoidant of something. that or she was fake about it? dunnnnno.
i was also told that when another one of M's friend had seen her on campus with her new beau, she accidentally intoduced P as her boyfriend but then corrected her self saying, "oh, i mean, my friend P".
she was at a club though, and one of my good friends was there (someone that she has said she hates) and when they ran into one another, O introduced my friend, N, to her "new boyfriend", saying that she broke up with her "old boyfriend". i dunno, i'm weirded out with O's new behaviour. she's not like this, or so i thought. i actually trusted her with things that i didn't trust other people with. and she doens't feel bad in saying that i'm a "wishy washy" person and that essentially i'm someone who "pretends that i care about people, but reality i don't give a shit about them".
nice.
she said other things about her "close" friends but i'm so not saying it. just the stuff about me. cuz it makes me feel special. ugh.
you know, at my debut (18th formal Birthday celebration in filipino culture), one of my best friends (P) was giving a speech about me and in the midst, she started to cry.
O turned to PA in the middle of it and said, "I could never cry over (me), could you cry over her? maybe if it was you or R, but not (me)".
PA told me this herself, as she was shocked O would be as senseless as to say this.
whattabitch.
yepppp.

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